There's only one thing that's truly important, and that's dancing to the beat of your own drum. Not your partners, not your childrens, nor your friends or co-workers.
Work out what feels good to YOU and do that.
When your not sure, simply go within and ask. You'll hear the answer. Life will start to become a much softer and more beautiful experience when you stop trying to be like others or do as they expect or want you to do. Do You.
That's all that really matters. Move to your own rhythm, always.